My 5 Ways To Be a Happier You

imageI’m a pretty chilled out and laid back person and yes, I do live and love a beachy lifestyle which can ado to the picture, but being in constant demand for something materialistic or living a highly strung life, can seem a little overrated at the end of the day.

If the wrong type of milk can ruin more than just your coffee, maybe it is time to create a ‘happy plan’ to  improve your happiness.

When you place your head on your pillow each night, just how happy are you?

It is too often I catch myself listening to conversations and seeing people in their work spaces, living environments and even in their so called ‘hobbies’, being aggravated and frustrated. People showing signs that something isn’t good enough or up to their standards, too hard or stressful may need to reasses where they are in life and what truley makes them smile. There are too many of us that are becoming weighed down by so called ‘problems’ and letting them ruin our moods, feelings, opportunities and ultimately our happiness.

1. Attitude, Appreciation and Acceptance

Your attitude can determine your day. Be in control of it. Wake up positive and try to hold a positive thought for the day. Think of one good reason why you should be happy for the coming day and go to sleep with a positive thought appreciating the day you have just had. We all have our bad days, life struggles and plain old crappy times, but our attitude is where we can take control, and guide ourselves into a positive state of mind. In my younger days and through many experiences such as elite sporting events, I learnt just how powerful our minds really can be. Use it and try it for yourself! It surely can change our attitude and the way we accept everything! Including ourselves, others and how we deal with different situations.image

If you have a bed and at least one meal and a glass of pure water for the day than you are lot luckier than a lot of people in the world, especially if that water came out of a tap in your house! As a school sports teacher I can deal with more than 200 different students in one day! Each will bring along to class, their own moods, attitudes and lives. This is where I try to stay as positive as possible. And as I always try to remind myself;

‘there are more than 6 billion people in the world, don’t let just one ruin YOUR day’

as well as appreciating the fact that I am damn lucky to live where I am. I always take the time to remind myself constantly to appreciate the little things in life, like going home to a queen bed, off the floor, oh and did I mention an electric blanket!

2. Your happiness


What is it and how do YOU make yourself feel happy? This is a key to knowing the ways in which you can control you daily thoughts, habits and motivation. The way you ‘treat’ yourself and ultimately the way that you can bring happiness into each and every aspect of your daily life is what you and only you, can figure out. Have a happy thought ready to go in your mind. Whenever I’m in a situation where it just seems like the world is ending, I always talk to and remind myself what is right. Try having a simple happy thought n your mind or as I like to do, picture myself somewhere else (aka the beach). It may even be as simple as having a family photo in your work place, a special something in your car or looking at a piece of jewellery that holds a special memory and triggers a simple thought. This is where our power of the mind also comes into play.

‘Be happy, not because everything is good, but because YOU can see the good in everything’

By making time for yourself and things that do make you smile, you only have happiness and those ‘good vibes’ to inhale. Do things that make you smile. It doesn’t have to be jumping out of a plane or riding a Ferris wheel in Paris, little things like taking time to walk on the beach, laying and looking up at the clouds and my favourite smiling at strangers.

3. Choices

This is a big one for me. A lot of people ask to me how do I live this holiday lifestyle and why haven’t I lived by the norm of school, uni, work and family, but surprisingly I have. 13 years of school, 4 years of a degree and working different casual jobs since the age of 15, has definitely aided in developing me into who I am today. Choose what you want, and stick to it. It’s actually pretty simple. Don’t let others tell you what is right or wrong, you are in control and have your life’s reins in your hands.


Live simply, work less, be happy and do things you love everyday. Yes some of us have to work the 9-5, but what is it all for? To have a huge house, go on expensive holidays for only few weeks a year, and have the latest and greatest furniture? This is where our choices come into action.

Last year alone I spent about 8 months in Bali, Indonesia and 4 months home in Australia (for the summer of course!). You do the maths. This is all due to the choices I make each and everyday. Yes, my partner Dwi is from Bali and no I don’t have a mortgage or kids, but that defiantly doesn’t mean that a single me or even a family couldn’t do the same! It’s how you want to live. Work it out and follow it!

‘The more you love your decisions the less you need others to love them!’

Don’t get me wrong routine and repetition can be amazing to incorporate into a lifestyle. I too love it when I have an alarm set and my bed time is always the same, but managing time and the dreaded M word (money) can play a huge impact into the way you choose to live. For me, I just don’t want to be stuck in a full-time job, in the same place and doing the same thing over and over each day, a few months is okay, but then a getaway is well and truley needed. Maybe in the future, but right now I’m pretty happy not having my feet planted too heavily in the ground.

4. Priorities


Set them straight and stick to them. I sometimes like to write them on a sticky note on your mirror and read them each morning. Of course family, friends and work will be the first you all think of, but take time to think about YOU. What is it  you actually want to do, achieve and accomplish.

It can be simply spending more time with your pets, visiting grandparents, playing a sport once a week, going for a swim after work and my favourite, telling your loved ones you love them as much as possible. These little things in life should be higher up on our priority lists compared to the boring things we actually prioritise. This is where you may need to identify what you need a little more or a little less of and change it.

‘Everything in your life is a reflection of a choice you make, if you want different results, make different choices’

For sure we all have things that we have to do, like pay bills and wash the car every now and then, but by setting priorities in your life and not just a New Years resolution, will definitely lead to a happier and more smiling you!

5. Occupation

imageAs the saying goes, love it or leave it. Life’s too damn short to be stuck in an office you hate or behind a screen punching in numbers. A job that challenges you daily, requires you to utilise your mind and makes us excited to wake up the next day, is one worth working your butt off for. At the end of the day, it is where we spend ALOT of our time and where our happiness can begin. It may seem hard to get out of the job you have done forever. It’s easy, you know what is required and you know everyone you work with, but do you ever imagine yourself doing something else?

‘Don’t pick a job with great holiday time, pick a career you don’t need escaping from!’

Even if you do, do the 9-5 or have a busy work schedule, you too can incorporate things into your daily life to improve the situation. Simple things like saying good morning to you fellow employees, sitting outside in your lunch break or something as easy as a packet of red frogs or candy in your desks bottom draw, I know that makes me smile! It can be hard to find the career path that offers the dollars signs, the holidays and the enjoyment that we all long for, but there is definitely a way for everyone to achieve greater happiness and live a lifestyle that you love. It’s up to you, you just have to discover it whilst discovering your happiness.


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8 thoughts on “My 5 Ways To Be a Happier You

  1. Pesi says:

    I always love reading people’s blog on ‘Ways to be Happier’ because you can’t never have enough emphasizing, reminder, note etc on being Happier!!! Thank you for sharing 🙂

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    • haylesmurray says:

      Thank you Pesi! Exactly, it’s hard to narrow it down to just a few things and every one has a different view on life, but it all helps 😊


  2. aiyanaj says:

    I love this! I’m very much a believer in attitude shaping your life and happiness. I have bipolar disorder and really struggled for a long time until I realised that I had an attitude of failure – I expected things to go wrong and be hard, and consequently that became my reality. I’ve been working hard on changing that attitude so this is a really good reinforcer! Thanks!

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    • haylesmurray says:

      Good on you! Stay positive!! I’m so happy and hope that this post can influence you too, to stay happy! All the best for the future 😊


  3. Sharon Hughes says:

    What a brilliant post. I left my full time ‘corporate’ job last year, after it started to feel like it was taking over my life. I was so exhausted at the end of every day, I wasn’t really enjoying life, I was too tired all the time. While I am earning so much less, I realise I really don’t need that much in life, and money truly doesn’t bring happiness. Life is what you make it. 💕

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    • haylesmurray says:

      This makes me happy to hear! I love that you took the plunge and changed your life for you! Keep it up and stay happy! Materialistic things are only that, material. Yayyy! Keep smiling Sharon 😊


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